It is because of the way in which one closed down in development that one ends up hungry, because the mind has veiled the heart from its boundless merging with everything in the universe. And we are like in a prison room, and when we fall in love with somebody it takes us out into the sunlight again. We come back into the place of ourselves where we feel at home, safe, and loving.
Our hearts are very frightening to us because we were developed as separate beings, and we got so addicted to our separateness that we get frightened of the way in which the heart keeps giving it away.